Mind Power

Posted in Uncategorized on August 28, 2011 by beautifulsaint

Have you ever reached a point where you were sick and tires of being sick and tired?

Sometimes we have to hit an emotional and mental brick wall to realize that if the situation’s not going to change, then we’ll have to. When we’re bruised, bleeding and on spiritual life support, we’re forced to reconsider not only our goals, but our strategies and the role we’re playing in creating our own failure and misery.

Ultimately, we all hunger for harmony, which is created when your reality meets your expectations. That congruity speaks to the compatibility of self and the world you live in, your values and actions, your purpose and vocation. Achieving this alignment can often be a lifetime assignment.

You may feel compromised in your job, be in a relationship that diminishes you, be drowning in debt, live in a dump of an apartment or be unmarried, childless and way past the “sell-by” date society’s dictated for you. Does this mean you shouldn’t allow yourself to experience happiness and fulfillment until you get out of your rut?

There has to be peace while we’re still on the journey. Disharmony may exist on the outside, but don’t let it gnaw at your inside, eroding your joy, dignity, self-worth and self-love. Make peace with the situation as it is, right now, and you’re home free. The situation itself may not change, but the way you experience it can. This is a manual entitled ‘ In the Meantime’ and it shows you how to be your most joyful, inspired self in the midst of the storm.

By all means, dream the impossible dream- but your mind must support you and your vision as you run or limp towards it. In this way, your mind can fill the gaps between your now and then.

Making the decision to change yourself when your environment refuses to change isn’t synonymous with throwing in the towel, abandoning your vision or accepting the status quo. Wisdom teaches is that affirmation, powerful, able, believing, determined attitude, coupled with patience and efforts, exerts the kind of power over events, people and situations that induces change, Adjusting the way you see your current reality is a protective shield for your spirit while still on the journey- it’s the dust that gets blown into every situation in your life.

It’s contagious and free-flowing. It creates magic. Harness that magic by events that are stench in your life.

Change your world by changing yourself. The change within your mind and attitude can and must be measured by the quality of the conversation you have with yourself and the decisions you’re called to make, moment by moment.

By Thami Ngubeni.

Mpho Belle-Hellen Nare
a microbiology student, lover of Medicine..a beautiful saint!!

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True Friends

Posted in Uncategorized on August 28, 2011 by beautifulsaint

God comes to us through the people in our lives. He sends them to us with messages to encourage, rebuke or call for change. Our friends can reflect our own greatness and flaws; they’re the souls we choose to be witnesses to our lives, even more than our own families sometimes. Your family was chosen for you by Divine Providence, for reasons only God knows. Your friends, on the other hand, are chosen by you. They can be your breathing space, your place of rest and rejuvenation when the world outside’s too hostile and challenging to bear. They can be your think tank dream machine so that, together, you can aspire to the highest aims and support each other as you create and stretch yourselves.

But some friendships are plain toxic. Instead of breathing life into you, they can steal your peace, replacing it with gossip, intrigue, bitterness and jealousy. Take the time to look at those you call your friends and ask yourself: “what is it that brings you together? Is it the pursuit of money, men, the good life, business, religion, your marriages, children? It may be clear what your common bond’s based on and that’s OK, as long as you’re aware of it. However, there are people who are your “friends” only because of what you can do for them. Basically, they’re using you and if you’ve allowed that, ask yourself why. Don’t you deserve to be loved simply for being yourself? Some friendships are there for specific period in our lives, and as we develop, we outgrow who no longer mirror who we are or who we aspire to be.

Solly Mahlangu once said: “there are friends of yesterday,today and tomorrow.” Not everyone will “enter the promised land”.

Surround yourself with people who’ll add value to your life and allow you the freedom and security to be yourself, flaws and all; the kind of friends who are there not only because you have common interests, but because you’re common beings- your spirits resonate with each other and you fuel each other with revelations that lead to lives lived in High consciousness, joy, love, success and hope…….

Thami Ngubeni via Destiny mag.

Mpho Belle-Hellen Nare
a microbiology student, lover of Medicine..a beautiful saint!!

93 reasons why Mandela still matters

Posted in Uncategorized on July 17, 2011 by beautifulsaint

93 reasons Madiba still matters

2011-07-17 10:00

Johannesdburg – Across the country and the world people are going out in numbers to celebrate International Nelson Mandela Day on Monday, when the icon turns 93.

From Hermanus to Hammanskraal, South Africans have heeded the call to give up 67 minutes for Mandela – in recognition of the 67 years he spent serving the country. Charitable initiatives will continue throughout the week.

Social networking sites such as Facebook and Twitter are teeming with people announcing their Mandela Day initiatives as they do their bit.

Non-profit organisations, companies and government have also heeded the call, doing everything from planting seeds to reading to children.

In this tribute, City Press provides 93 reasons why Mandela is still relevant to South Africa today.

The paper asked celebrities, business leaders, politicians and ordinary folk – in fact just about everybody – and this is what they had to say . . . and do.

Happy birthday Madiba. 

CELEBRITY

He is the beacon of hope. Of what we can all become if we were to think of the next person for just a moment.
Mpho Maboi: SuperSport presenter

Madiba is loved because he is not perfect, he is just a man who picks good over evil every day.
Anele Mdoda, 5FM DJ

He is a charmer who knows how to play around with words, especially where necessary and relevant.
Malaika singer, Tshedi Mholo

He is a great example of how to forgive ones who have hurt you the most.
Phelo Bala, singer

Madiba is so loved because he is a soldier and is one of the few living legends.
Chad Saaiman, singer

Because of his true and great leadership.
Lebogang ‘Shugasmakx’ Mothibe, rapper

For the lessons of selflessness, courage, love and humility he has strived to instil in every South African and the world. His greatness never overshadowed the work he set out to do.
Hulisani CC Ravele, former child star

More than anything, he freed our minds so that without a shadow of doubt we could also innately believe that the best is possible for us.
V-Entertainment presenter, Dineo Moeketsi

He is a man of the world. After being put away for 27 years he showed and taught us love, reconciliation and forgiveness. He saw the need of being the president just once and he left while people still loved him.
Yvonne Chaka Chaka, musician

He showed us as South Africans in a diverse country how to deal with situations. He is the symbol of freedom, peace and he is diplomatic.
Ryan Bother, model and soccer player

What he fought for, the things he believes in such as fighting against white domination. His love for children. Trying to see the progress of the less fortunate.
Arthur Mafokate, musician

He is seen as a humanitarian all over the globe. He is love in a physical form.
Akumzi Jezile, (yotv) presenter

Because he is the face of freedom and unity and successfully struggled for the South Africa we have today.
Minenhle Dlamini, presenter

THE PUBLIC

Because his legacy and insight makes him timeless and relevant today, and because of the way he managed the transition form apartheid to peaceful democracy. His place is booked in heaven.
Elsie Van Graan, Nelspruit

It is because of the pivotal role he played in liberating the country and the contribution he and his comrades made in bringing the Rainbow Nation together.
Mandlenkosi Hlophe, Kanyamazane

Because of the freedom he brought to all South Africans.
Aggry Malumane, Bushbuckridge

One thing that stands out is the way he handled the transition from apartheid to democracy.
Anthony Sibiya, Sabie

Because of the changes he has brought for all South African citizens. There were no scandals during his time as president and that is something the current leadership needs to look up to.
Fortunate Nkambule, Kanyamazane

He has brought us democracy and fought for both white and black. Even though some other black South Africans believed that Africa is for Africans, he included the white demographic in the new government of South Africa after apartheid.
Akhona Pote, Philippi

Mandela is relevant because he thinks out of the box and can see problems decades ahead. He is so powerful that he wants a country where all people can identify with freedom.
Gamel Hendricks, Cape Town

He was offered to get out of prison and stop fighting for the rights of ordinary people but he refused because he believed in transforming the country.
Ayabulela Ndamose, Crossroads

His greatness was his humility. He did not seek redress for 27 years’ imprisonment and nor did he instigate any reprisal against the white minority.
Lisa Genu, Khayelitsha

Because he understands what it means to fight against enormous odds and because he remained unbeaten and unbowed, despite tremendous outward oppression. He showed that words are much more powerful than weapons.
Owen Kinahan, Camps Bay

He’s the ultimate symbol of selflessness and we should be inspired by his example to selflessly serve our communities.
Niq Mhlongo , author Mandela is relevant because he gave us the gift of humility.

In the face of violent humiliation, he refused the notion that he is great and that gave us and the world a good lesson in humility.
Mbuyiselo Botha , Sonke Gender Justice Network News

POLITICS

Madiba is regarded by millions in our country and on the globe as their hero. A national and international icon who brought about democracy and freedom to the oppressed masses of our country.
President Jacob Zuma

Madiba is not only relevant to South Africa, but to the whole world.
When he coughs, the world sneezes. He has not been living for his family and the country, but for the world as well.
Bantu Holomisa

Madiba is now more relevant than ever.
He symbolises the values of the Constitution which are currently under threat in South Africa.
Helen Zille

Madiba and his generation demonstrated what it meant to be true fighters for liberation, ­including their preparedness to sacrifice everything. Going forward, given the challenges we confront, we will need the same, if not more resolve that Madiba and his generation ­demonstrated.
Thabo Mbeki

Madiba will always be relevant because he is the embodiment of our democracy and constitution. He taught us about reconciliation… that we can make peace and get along with our enemies.
Zanele kaMagwaza-Msibi

Madiba will remain relevant for a very long time to come. His goal of reconciliation remains an important goal for all of us to achieve. There are some in the governing party who have forgotten the major task of reconciling our people.
Mosiuoa Lekota, Cope

Mandela is no longer merely a man, but a symbol. He represents the achievement of the seemingly impossible; he represents hope. In the midst of all we face as a nation, celebrating hope has become both rare and indispensable.
Chief Mangosuthu Buthelezi

Mandela is a product of our struggle for ­freedom. The values of self-sacrifice, of social solidarity, that are the hallmark of the liberation movement, are still relevant today to guide our political life as a nation.
Themba Godi, APC

Mandela will never die because his ideas will never die.
This is not only among freedom and democracy-loving South Africans. A Mandela comes once in a 100 years. I hope we get more.
Zwelinzima Vavi, Cosatu

To us as the SACP Madiba is the embodiment of all that is good about our liberation. We laud him for his selfless service to the people.
Blade Nzimande, SACP

Mandela is relevant in 2011 and beyond ­because the values he represents remain at the core of our vision for South Africa. Among others, the need for reconciliation. He is a God­given ­leader of the nation and a father to all, black and white.
Mathews Phosa, ANC treasurer general

SPORTS

He has made it possible for me and many others to live our dreams, in my case of playing for my ­country on an international stage.
Graeme Smith, SA cricket captain

What he taught us of forgiveness, of tolerance, of wisdom and of ­humanity is a lesson for the ages. The miracle he produced in this country is a legacy for which we will be ever grateful.
John Smit, Springbok captain

He is a constant reminder that we must never take peace for granted. He remains an inspiration to all of us. The sacrifices he made together with his colleagues would never be forgotten.
Irvin Khoza, PSL and Orlando Pirates chairperson

I learned how to be a good husband, father and a leader from uTata. He is an icon and a role ­model not only to South Africa but the whole world.
Former Bafana Bafana captain, Lucas Radebe

He was a driving force behind bringing the World Cup to South Africa. He never condemned ­anyone but he embraced and ­continued to give direction. There are many lessons to learn from Mandela.
Danny Jordaan, SAFA vice president

I believe he still is a father to all of us. He changed the face of South Africa. His perseverance and determination gave us hope.
Boxing champion, Dingaan Thobela

Mandela’s legacy will live forever. You get moved by his stories and his speeches. I have five books about him.
John “Shoes” Moshoeu, former Bafana Bafana star

The Mandela name is our key as South Africans. We get recognition internationally because of his name and I think his name will still be relevant to the generations to come.
Mapaseka Makhanya, athletics star

SOCIAL

Preparing for Mandela Day! Give it your all, as u’ll do in the tough games ahead!
Bryan Habana, Springbok star

Day Four of Bikers For Mandela! At the Ubombo Orphanage and HIV centre, Jozini!!
DJ Fresh

Need an idea for how to help? Recycle!
Charlize Theron

Tomorrow at 8.05am, 12 million pupils will sing happy birthday to Mandela. People, join in!
SA Info, website

Mandela’s 93 tomorrow Happy B day Nelson
Danny de Vito, actor

I will be giving poor people food 2eat
Tendi Mufamadi

what a special moment! RT @Quathar: @OfficialKimora + @djimonhounsou at the unveiling of their special Mandela gift!
Kimora Lee Simmons, US TV personality

Looking forward to giving back! RT @OfficialCSA: #CSAnews CSA and GCB team up
Kass Naidoo , TV personality

Looking forward to celebrating+commemorating Mandela Day in New York.
Nadia Neophytou , journalist

I’m going to give them blankets away… be4 ndisoke ngazo kulemigidi yalenyanga
Anele Mdoda , FM DJ

You inspired lots of ppl to get their freedom, am an Egyptian and one of them
Nagwa Adam , Egypt

May African leaders learn what leading is all about from your legacy… 
Danilo Macuvele

I’m going to spend the next few months fundraising for Mary’s Chaeli Campaign Cycle Challenge! Do your bit and donate R67…
Mary Fourie

Happy Bday! Why not do an event in Tunisia…

Chahrawoods Ben Ali, Tunisia

You are our daily inspiration, you have given up everything wnt had for the freedom our south africans. we love you tata
Abel Mashila

A selfless leader, custodian of our freedom nd father of our nation. U ar de Best Tata, May u hav ertenal life
Bafana Sibanyoni

I will donate 67 minutes visiting a child-headed Lukhele family in Reedville near Springs at Ekurhuleni.
Thandeka Mzizi

What are you going to do to make a difference? Something close to my heart is putting a child thru school. Who’s keen to help?
Lesley-Ann Wallace

U sacrificed with everything u have to give us freedom, luv u so much?.?.?. happy birthday tata
Jacob Mosweu

BUSINESS

He is one of the greatest sons ever born on this soil. He is an icon of the world and has served this country with a magic touch and we can never ever repeat a leadership of his calibre.
Dr Richard Maponya, entrepreneur

When we celebrate this birthday we recall the end of the apartheid nightmare and the promise of our new democracy and the man more than any other who made this possible.
Bobby Godsell, chair of Business Leadership SA

His prominence will last beyond his time precisely because when he made himself a sacrificial lamb, he put the interests of his people first, then his own.
Thabiso Molelekwa, spokesperson for taxi association Santaco

Madiba’s presence in our midst should be a constant mirror to all South Africans through which we must look at ourselves and ask if we’re living up to the values and principles he lives all the time.
Cas Coovadia, managing director of Banking Association of SA

Mandela sacrificed so much so that South Africans not only have a right to vote but become liberated economically.
Thami Bolani, chair of National Consumer Forum

His influence transcended beyond his generation – young and old – and many more to come. His ability was to unify a divided society and turn it into a uniform society in the best ­interests of all South Africans.
Mncane Mthunzi, chief executive of Consumer Goods Council of SA

He was the man who pulled SA out of the hole that the National Party had dug it into.
Moeletsi Mbeki, political commentator
City Press

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Mpho Belle-Hellen Nare
a microbiology student, lover of Medicine..a beautiful saint!!

Finding And Keeping A Life Partner.

Posted in Uncategorized on July 10, 2011 by beautifulsaint

Finding & Keeping A Life Partner

By Michael Yip | June, 26, 2010 |

by Dov Heller, M.A.

When it comes to making the decision about choosing a life partner, no one wants to make a mistake. Yet, with a divorce rate of close to 50%, it appears that many are making serious mistakes in their approach to finding Mr./Miss. Right!

If you ask most couples who are engaged why they’re getting married, they’ll say: ‘We’re in love’; I believe this is the ..1 mistake people make when they date. Choosing a life partner should never be based on love. Though this may sound ‘not politically correct’, there’s a profound truth here.

Love is not the basis for getting married. Rather, love is the result of a good marriage. When the other ingredients are right, then the love will come. Let me say it again: ‘You can’t build a lifetime relationship on love alone’; You need a lot more!!! Here are five questions you must ask yourself if you’re serious about finding and keeping a life partner.

QUESTION ..1: Do we share a common life purpose?

Why is this so important? Let me put it this way: If you’re married for 20 or 30 years, that’s a long time to live with someone. What do you plan to do with each other all that time? Travel, eat and jog together? You need to share something deeper and more meaningful. You need a common life purpose.

Two things can happen in a marriage: (1) You can grow together, or (2)you can grow apart. 50% of the people out there are growing apart. To make a marriage work, you need to know what you want out of life! Bottom line; marry someone who wants the same thing.

QUESTION ..2: Do I feel safe expressing my feelings and thoughts with this person?

This question goes to the core of the quality of your relationship. Feeling safe means you can communicate openly with this person. The basis of having good communication is trust i.e. trust that I won’t get ‘punished’; or hurt for expressing my honest thoughts and feelings. A colleague of mine defines an abusive person as someone with whom you feel afraid to express your thoughts and feelings. Be honest with yourself on this one. Make sure you feel emotionally safe with the
person you plan to marry.

QUESTION ..3: Is he/she a mensch?

A mensch is someone who is a refined and sensitive person. How can you test? Here are some suggestions. Do they work on personal growth on a regular basis? Are they serious about improving themselves? A teacher of mine defines a good person as ‘someone who is always striving to be good and do the right ‘;. So ask about your significant other: What do they do with their time? Is this person materialistic? Usually a materialistic person is not someone whose top priority is character refinement.

There are essentially two types of people in the world: (1) People who are dedicated to personal growth and (2) people who are dedicated to seeking comfort. Someone whose goal in life is to be comfortable will put personal comfort ahead of doing the right thing. You need to know that before walking down the aisle.

QUESTION ..4: How does he/she treat other people?

The one most important thing that makes any relationship work is the ability to give. By giving, we mean the ability to give another person pleasure.

Ask: Is this someone who enjoys giving pleasure to others or are they wrapped up in themselves and self absorbed?
To measure this, think about the following: How do they treat people whom they do not have to be nice to, such as waiters, bus boys, taxi drivers, etc.. How do they treat their parents and siblings? Do they have gratitude and appreciation?
If they don’t have gratitude for the people who have given them everything; can you do nearly as much for them? You can be sure that someone, who treats others poorly, will eventually treat you poorly as well.

QUESTION ..5: Is there anything I’m hoping to change about this person after we’re married?

Too many people make the mistake of marrying someone with the intention of trying to ‘improve’; them after they’re married. As a colleague of mine puts it: ‘You can probably expect someone to change after marriage for the worse’ If you cannot fully accept this person the way they are now, then you are not ready to marry them. In conclusion, dating doesn’t have to be difficult and treacherous. The key is to try leading a little more with your head and less with your heart. It pays to be as objective as possible when you are dating; to be sure to ask questions that will help you get to the key issues. Falling in love is a great feeling, but when you wake up with a ring on your finger, you don’t want to find yourself trouble because you didn’t
do your homework.

Another perspective…
There are some people in your life that need to be loved from a distance.. It’s amazing what you can accomplish when you let go of or at least minimize your time with draining, negative, incompatible, not going anywhere relationships. Observe the relationships around you. Pay attention…Which ones lift and which ones lean? Which ones encourage and which ones discourage? Which ones are on a path of growth uphill and which ones are going downhill? When you leave certain people do you feel better or feel worse? Which ones dont appreciate you? Which ones make you feel good, praises you, boosts you with loving and caring words or annotations.

The more you seek quality, respect, growth, peace of mind, love and truth around you…the easier it will become for you to decide who gets to sit in the front row and who should be moved to the balcony of your life.

An African proverb states, ‘Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye’; Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don’t let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self esteem make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don’t fool yourself that you can
change someone or that what you see as faults aren’t really that important. Do you bring out the best in each other? Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare and control? What do you bring to the relationship? Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain? You can’t take someone to the altar to alter them. You can’t make someone love you or make someone stay. If you develop self esteem, spiritual discernment, and ‘a life’; you won’t find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain. Seeking status, sex, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship.

WHAT KEEPS A RELATIONSHIP STRONG IS:
1. TRUST
2. COMMUNICATION
3. INTIMACY
4. A SENSE OF HUMOR
5. SHARING TASKS
6. DAILY EXCHANGES (meal, shared activity, hug, call, touch, notes, etc.)
7. SHARING COMMON GOALS AND INTERESTS
8. GIVING EACH OTHER SPACE TO GROW WITHOUT FEELING INSECURE
9.GIVING EACH OTHER A SENSE OF BELONGING AND ASSURANCES OF COMMITMENT
10. CONCERN AND CARE FOR YOUR LOVER IN YOUR OWN WAYS.

If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment withdrawal, abuse, neglect, and dishonesty; and pain will replace

Mpho Belle-Hellen Nare
a microbiology student, lover of Medicine..a beautiful saint!!

#Ladies If A Man Wants You.

Posted in Uncategorized on July 10, 2011 by beautifulsaint

By: Salma Rumman

This advice was passed along to me from a counselor; it was great to hear so I wanted to share it.

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay.

Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that’s not meant to be.Slower is better.

Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can’t “be friends.”A friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend.

Don’t settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.

Don’t stay because you think “it will get better.” You’ll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.

The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

Avoid men who’ve got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.He didn’t marry them when he got them pregnant,Why would he treat you any differently?

Always have your own set of friends separate from his.Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.

If something bothers you, speak up.

Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.

You cannot change a man’s behavior. Change comes from within.

Don’t EVER make him feel he is more important than you are…even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god.

He is a man, nothing more nothing less.Never let a man define who you are. Never borrow someone else’s man.

Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he’ll cheat on you.

A man will only treat you the way you allow him to treat you.All men are not dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the bending…compromise is a two-way street.

You need time to heal between relationships…There is nothing cute about baggage. Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.

You should never look for someone to complete you. A relationship consists of two whole individuals. Look for someone complimentary, not supplementary.

Dating is fun; even if he doesn’t turn out to be Mr. Right.

Make him miss you sometimes. When a man always know where you are, and you’re always readily available to him—he takes it for granted.

Don’t fully commit to a man who doesn’t give you everything that you need.Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

Share this with other ladies.You’ll make someone smile, another rethink her choices, and another woman prepare. They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them, and an entire lifetime to forget them.

First published September 2007

Mpho Belle-Hellen Nare
a microbiology student, lover of Medicine..a beautiful saint!!

Purpose Of People In Our Lives

Posted in Uncategorized on July 10, 2011 by beautifulsaint

Sometimes people come into our lives and we know right away that they were meant to be there, to serve some sort of purpose, teach a lesson, or to help figure out whom you are or who you want to become. When God wants to bless us, He sends people into our lives, the very same way that when the Devil wants to cause damage in our lives, he sends people.

When people come into your life, you should discern the role they are going to play. I have a practice of praying about the people that come into my life. This started a long time ago when I was praying about ‘romantic’ relationships. My prayer was that any man that I met, if he was not ‘the one,’ must be out of life within two weeks of meeting him.

God was and still is faithful in this regard. (I’m not saying you must go practice the same thing now, what works for me, may not work for you). I then extended that prayer to friends and new people, and my prayer became, “Lord, reveal to me the purpose of this person in my life, and my purpose in their life.”

My best friend (Khutjo) and I have been friends since we were in High school. We’ve been friends for years and we became Best Friends over those years. I don’t see Khutjo every day. I don’t’ talk to her every day. As a matter of fact we can go on for a good 3 months without seeing each other. But I know who she is on my life and what role she plays in it and she knows who I am in her life and what role I play. Even though I had not prayed about this relationship when it started, I know it is God ordained. Then I had a friend, whom I thought was pretty cool, and seemed to have all the qualities of what a friend should be, but she ended up sticking a knife in my back. In all honesty God had warned me about her, but I chose not to listen and I ended up being hurt. Proverbs 12:26 says

“The righteous should CHOOSE HIS FRIENDS CAREFULLY, for the way of the wicked leads them astray.”People come into our lives for a reason, a season or a lifetime.

When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a God send and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die, or fade into anonymity. Sometimes circumstances dictate that they go in another direction leaving you to wonder; sometimes they walk away, uncaring and unwilling. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. Know when it’s time to move on. Some people come into your life for a SEASON. They may only be there for a short period of time based on premeditated agendas. They may have motives that are not condoned by you, or because your turn has come to share with them in growing or learning new initiatives for the future. If all things are good, they may bring you an experience of peace, or make you laugh. They may introduce you to new routines and things that you have never experienced. But only for a season, then they move on. Seasonal tidings with this situation usually deal with those that are going through changes, can’t cope with certain situations that cause them to step outside of their comfort zones, or are unwilling to take chances. Other seasonal folk readily recognize their own kind, and will not hesitate to cut you lose. The key to coming full circle after misunderstandings may have caused a rift is to humble yourself, accept that perhaps you could have done something better and move on. If it’s meant to be they will return, if not then it just wasn’t meant to be.

LIFETIME relationships are harder to recognize, but with time can be the best choice you can make. But how many people do you know who are willing to persevere for the long haul? Life timers teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. They accept you for what you are, do not prematurely judge you, do not have any inhibitions about taking chances for the betterment of the relationship, and feel that compatibility is something that is assessed as you go, not at the spur of the moment. They don’t adhere to conditions and will be there during the midnight hour. There’s GOT to be something that you can learn from this type of person. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. This is Agape Love at its core. The type of love that Gods. The people you meet who affect your life, and the success and downfalls you experience, help to create who you are and who you become.

Either way, it is important to be able to identify what role someone plays in your life.

Mpho Belle-Hellen Nare
a microbiology student, lover of Medicine..a beautiful saint!!

Make a Choice

Posted in Uncategorized on July 7, 2011 by beautifulsaint

One of the things that I struggle with quite a lot is indecisiveness, and it really puts me down when I just can’t make a decision. Double minded, indecisive people are always miserable, and don’t enjoy peace with God. Nothing is worse than being between two decisions and not making either one of them. Usually I am a decisive person, but I have made decisions too fast and made mistakes. And sometime I slip into being double-minded and end up miserable.
We often don’t make decisions because we don’t want to make mistakes. But making no decision is still a decision and a mistake. Decide to decide! It will produce peace in your life, as long as you don’t second-guess yourself and fall back into being indecisive again. Stick with your decision unless you are definitely shown that they are wrong. Sometimes we find out whether a decision is right or wrong only by making it and seeing what happens. Making a wrong decision is not the end of the world, it’s actually better than making no decision at all. Most of us would not mind making a mistake if we thought we could make it privately. It’s not the mistake, but people knowing about it that bothers us. We are afraid of what people think, and yet their opinions cannot really harm us. Our decisions can.
We have all experienced having to choose between God and people. It really shouldn’t be a contest, but somehow it always is – at least until we are delivered from the fear of man. Can someone’s thoughts really harm us that much? I think I have finally realized that if someone wants to judge me, he will find some way to do it, no matter what I do, so I might as well follow my heart and get about enjoying my life. We will be judged criticized and misunderstood at some point in our lives, and we really can’t do anything about it. Being afraid of people’s thoughts about our decisions only stops us from making progress. Satan has a way of always threatening us with “what ifs…” He shows us the terrible thing that could happen, and it always revolves around us making a mistake. When you make a decision, always remember that the chances of being right are just as equal as that chances that it might be wrong. We can never fulfill our destinies, if we worry about what people think all the time. Let them think what they want.
People who do bold things step out in faith, even though they have no proof that it will work. They make decisions by discernment. One might say he makes decisions by his gut. It means that he does what he believes is right even if he feels uncomfortable about it. Jesus Himself did that by going on the cross, in spite of the fact that he hoped/prayed the ‘cup would pass Him’.
God’s Word instructs us to let peace be the umpire in our lives, so as to decide, with finality, what was questionable. For example, you might want to buy a car or a house, but not have real peace about it (emotional excitement is not peace). If you are confused, then you are not in God’s will. He is the author of peace, not confusion. If you don’t have peace about the matter, don’t make the purchase. If you go ahead and buy without that peace, you will feel the pinch somewhere, somehow sooner or later.
James 1:8 (CEV) says “If you are that kind of person who can’t make up your mind, and can’t be trusted, don’t expect the Lord to give you anything at all.” If a man cannot settle on something, or make a decision about what he believes, how can God give him anything? That’s not the kind of reputation I want that’s for sure. I want people and God to be able to depend on me, to know that I mean what I say and won’t change my mind without a reason. Integrity is important for everyone right? I want to be in relationships with people I can depend on, people I know are decisive, stable, and reliable. I want to be able to trust people. Good relationships are built on trust. When we keep our word, even if it’s inconvenient for us to do so, it shows good character.
God wants us to live with confidence and approach life boldly. Being indecisive is neither. Make a decision today to start being decisive. Put your confidence in Christ, and who you are in Him. Not in what people think of say about you. Know yourself. Know your heart. Don’t wait for folk to dictate to you the truth about your value. Don’t assume you are wrong every time someone does not agree with you. Believe that God’s wisdom dwells inside you. God’s way if one of being decisive. We are not to make decisions so quickly that we don’t give them proper thought and prayer. We should seek wisdom and be sure we are following peace. But once we have done all we can do to assure we are making a right decision, as far as we know, there is nothing else to do except be courageous and do something, lest we do nothing.

Mpho Belle-Hellen Nare
a microbiology student, lover of Medicine..a beautiful saint!!